The Women of Worth had a Youversion Bible Plan which spanned for three Days and thereafter participated in a review. This post centers on the insights shared from the plan. Enjoy!
First and foremost, the review is not to shame or make anyone feel lesser. Its aim is to make us better sexually.
What is review? Review means assessment or analysis. Therefore, we are to rub minds together. I won’t be doing this alone, we’ll all contribute.
1. Pray concerning your sex life
One thing I have learnt and which I have taught my children is ‘you can pray about anything and everything’.
Therefore, if you feel you aren’t doing enough sexually to satisfy your husband, you can pray about it. Ask God for strength and help, He will surely help you.
2. Communicate
Learn to discuss about what you want to your husband, though it might look embarrassing. We should be open to discuss sex. You are partners, don’t be ashamed to talk to your husband.
When my house help left, I became so stressed because of chores, to even have sex was war, I called my hubby and discussed with him that it’s my desire to have good sex but I am just always tired. He promised to always help me and he has been helping me as promised. Communication is a vital ingredient in marriage.
Tell him where you want him to touch or where excite you in your body or how you think you can be satisfied.
3. Spice up your sexual ‘ministry’
Look for weird places to make love. Examples of weird places include but not limited to top of freezer; inside the car, home couch etc. Hold the wall, touch your toes, you have got to come up hither and stop missionary ‘ministry’ only.
Make sex a priority, prepare for it so that you can enjoy it better. It’s not just sex, it’s communion.
Well, I don’t know for others, but whenever I have sex with my husband, I get some kind of closure and intimacy. There was a time, you can’t come into my house without telling or calling me, because we make love anywhere in the house.
In conclusion, if someone can pray to have bigger buttocks and her prayer was answered, tell me why God won’t help your sex ‘ministry’ with your husband if you ask.
Our prayers should be, Lord help me satisfy the need of my husband and also help him to satisfy my needs. Amen.
Never underestimate the power of prayer even in ‘Gbenshing ministry’. Thank you everyone for making out time to read this lecture, I believe we have picked one or two things.
Bible Plan Link
https://bible.com/p/46924490/2f4a88c471d7b1bbde1755a26e72b89c
Questions and Answers
Question 1: Why do we have to stop missionary? Can’t one be creative with it.
Answer
I didn’t say we should out rightly stop missionary style. We need to understand that, variety is the spice of life. You know when you are satisfied with a particular meal, no matter the menu passing around you won’t eat it. In the same vein, we have to make sex satisfying to our husbands so that no matter the distractions out there, they will not be bothered. Though it’s really not by our efforts that some husbands are falling into temptation but we will try as much as possible to do the little we can as God enables us. I am sure though that our men are honorable and won’t fall in Jesus’ name. Amen!
Contribution 1
I learnt that, we can pray about our sex lives as couples and also no matter how embarrassing it might sound, we can discuss what we want our husbands to do while making love with us.
Contribution 2
I learnt sex helps to bring intimacy, we have to be intentional about it. Communication is very important as well. For example; if I’m to start a fasting program, I tell my husband in advance so as to prepare him and vice versa. Not that when I already started the fast before saying ‘Honey, no sex for now, my fasting has started’, that won’t be fair at all. There has to be a mutual agreement in advance.
I am not saying having sex while fasting is a sin but my husband and I give each other space if needed and we are cool with it. Especially if it’s a few days fast. What makes us cool with it is the COMMUNICATION factor.
Another way I feel we can spice up our sexual life is by spoiling our partners. Men love to be treated like babies. Turning on their ‘MUMU’ buttons and see how the sex ministry will move to next level.
Contribution 3
From the Bible plan, I learnt a less embarrassing way to discuss sex with one’s hubby. As much as I’m a preacher of “not feeling shy” to discuss anything with your husband, it’s not very easy for some people sometimes. So, if you’re finding it difficult to tell your husband how you enjoy sex, you can put it in writing just like the Songs of Solomon in the Bible.
Also, you can seize the opportunity of sexual intercourse time to communicate your needs.
“Touch my nipple more, baby”
“Don’t stop fingering me”
“I love the way your tongue, caresses my clit”
Also, you can use that time to find out what your hubby likes.
“Are you enjoying this, baby?”
“What about this?”
“How does that feel?”
You know we are different and we keep growing in intimacy. He sure will grow with you when you carry him along. But I’ll like to say, you must really be willing as well and you should show this by how well you make effort. You can’t be the woman who has no sex on her to-do list, the woman who’s always tired, or the one who develops headache every night and expects God to do a magic. Finally, the Vagina is with you, so, it’s in your hands to open it for the enjoyment.
Topic: Crazy Good Sex for Married Couples
(Bible Plan Review)
Lecturer: Oluwatomilola Ogunbona
Date: 10th November, 2021.