You are powerfully welcome to a Video Review under the Sex Theme. The Women of Worth (WOW) were given a task of watching a YouTube video by Mat Boggs titled ‘What Men Consider Great Sex- 4 Secrets’. You can check it out here.
The video under review is a short but very rich one. We learnt the 4 secrets to great Sex:
- Frequency
- Variety
- Fantasy
- Intensity
- Frequency: I know many of us are guilty for this point. If I may ask, how many times do you have Sex with your spouse in a week? The video taught us number of times count. He likened Sex to Pizza, it might not be sweet but it’s not bad. We must understand that we as women are wired differently from these men. Yes, our mood sometimes can be unexplainable but, on the average, we should have it thrice in a week. Our desires must align with that of our husbands. If you are married to a man that wants Sex at least twice a week but you want twice a month, your Sex life won’t be good. So, the bottom line is good frequency of Sex leads to a reasonably fulfillment of Sex.
- Variety: You will agree with me that Variety is the spice of life. As wives, we must be open to varieties. It should not be Missionary style of Sex always. The video said we must be open to varieties. Our honorable teacher of last week taught us some styles, how many have you practiced? Seriously, we should learn. Don’t say, ‘If I ask my husband for a style, he might feel somehow’. Please, if you can’t tell your husband what you want, who will? In fact, any new one you like, tell him and both of you will learn it together.
- Fantasy: This simply means the weirdest place you would love to have Sex. While growing up as a child in a public environment, I used to wonder what couples do in the bathroom whenever they are bathing. That experience made me fantasized having a Bathroom Sex when I get married. Few months after our wedding, I started disturbing my husband that we should engage in a Bathroom Sex. Some want Sex in the car, kitchen, toilet, beach, balcony etc. as their fantasy. Please maximize your fantasy with your husband. Fulfilling each other’s fantasy is a great way to add spice to your marriage.
- Intensity: What I got from this point is that you should not be a log of wood while having Sex. Our husbands enjoy Sex more when they know we are enjoying it. For example, my husband only moans when he is ejaculating and I don’t like it. How will you be enjoying something and hold back the excitement. You have to be involved. It was when I watched the video, I began to evaluate our Sex life too. In the video, Mat Boggs used Fish as an illustration. Don’t just be there like a dead fish, be alive sexually. That’s why I mentioned from the start that sometimes our mood can be all over, but intensity matters. Our husbands enjoy us more when they know they are hitting the right spot and we are showing them with our moans. If we as women are the ones showing intensity and the men are doing like a dead Fish, let’s show them the video, so that they can change too.
The video is simply saying ‘tiredness’ shouldn’t be a regular excuse, we must be intentional in our sexual life too. And thank God our men are God fearing. They don’t need to be pastors but the fear of God counts. It’s the fear of God that will make a man stick to his wife despite the Sex issues they might be having in the union and looking for possible solutions to problems that might come up unlike worldly men that claims Sex issues push them out for extramarital affairs.
This is where we draw the curtain today. Don’t forget to be sexually intentional as a Woman of Worth.
Video Link: https://youtu.be/3n-LVneI8WE
Contribution 1
‘Is sex food?’ This expression annoys men a lot. My husband will say ‘I waited while single, I will still not enjoy it when I’m married’.
I have fantasy of having Sex on the Beach.
I’m daily improving sexually.
Contribution 2
Yes! The more you have Sex, the more you enjoy it.
It is food. Let’s start seeing it that way. Sex thought shouldn’t come last. We should think everything together because it’s as important as every other thing that takes our thoughts too.
My heart desire is that, I want to have high libido, so much that I will be the one chasing hubby around for Sex and not the other way around.
Truly, our husbands’ enjoyment come from how much enjoyment we express. There are really times that I don’t feel like having Sex but it shouldn’t be always.
Being ‘intentional’ is the word.
It’s just because we don’t see it as being important. No matter how tired I am, if I’m on duty, I have to go to work and deliver a good service, isn’t it? So, we’re able to gather strength for what we attach importance to. Left to me, I can go 2 months without Sex but I worked on it when I realized how much my husband desires that I change. I had to see to it and now it makes our bonding unique.
Contribution 3
Sometimes hubby and I bath together not because we want to do anything but because we are in a hurry to leave the house at almost same time.
I have lovely fantasies. I once thought of traveling to a faraway and safe place with hubby to have Sex. I also thought of having Sex inside a garden, bush or any natural scenery.
Contribution 4
My own fantasy is to have Sex on a Yacht that personally belongs to me on and under the Ocean.
I once wanted us to have Sex at Jabi Lake (Abuja, Nigeria) at night. We got there and the place was closed. The urge vanished.
Sex is sweet, enjoy it. That’s why I plan well for Sex even if it’s once a month. We must both enjoy it and reach orgasm.
Topic: What Men Consider Great Sex- 4 Secrets
(Video Review)
Lecturer: Ruth Uzuzu
Date: Wednesday 1st December,2021.